If you are presently in a parent teenager relationship and all your parenting strategies are failing, don't worry. You are at the right place at the right time.
I want to share with you, ten quick parenting tips that you can apply today to salvage your parent teenager relationship. More than that, you can positively transform your relationship.
1. Keep Calm At All Times. If you allow yourself to be overcome with anger and frustration it will ooze out of you and will inadvertently give permission to your teenager to reciprocate.
2. Don't Sermonize, Moralize Or Lecture. If you do, your teenager will see it coming the moment you open your mouth. Speak as little as possible. More is less.
3. Be Persistent. The bad behavior that your teenager is exhibiting was probably years in the making. Don't expect it to disappear completely over night. Don't give up because of a few setbacks. As your teenager is letting loose with personal attacks, insults and other expressions of verbal and even physical abuse, simply say to them; "I am happy for you to honestly express your feelings but please do not speak or treat me in such a disrespectful way". Keep repeating these words as if you were like a 'broken record".
4. Avoid An Inquisition. Your teenager will most likely will not want to be put through the third degree. Therefore, no interrogative questions since they usually provoke defensiveness and anger. Rather ask open ended questions such as "what was the low light of your day?" or "what was the highlight of your day?".
5. Identify The Exact Behaviors That You Find Disrespectful. For example; cutting you off when you speak, slamming doors, walking out, eye rolling, sarcasm and more. For instance, you might say, "please avoid using swear words when you are speaking to me since it is disrespectful".
6. Do not Send Your Teenager To Their Room Or Out Of The House. If you do this, it will confirm for them that you don't care or you want to get rid of them. They will most likely use it as further ammunition against you. For example, they may say "you kicked me out".
7. Stay Physically Close To Your Teenager. If they turn to walk away, follow them. If they choose to go to their room, keep talking to them without harassing them. Stay calm.
8. Visualize Yourself As A Being Of Peace And Harmony. Do whatever it takes on a daily basis, to be a walking oasis of love and peace amidst a world filled with hate, distrust and conflict.
9. Be Clear And To The Point As Possible. Avoid being long winded when you speak. It is a huge put off for a teenager or anyone for that matter. Be brief and let them do most of the talking.
10. Be Prepared To Do What It Takes To Restore Your Parent Teenager Relationship.
I want to share with you, ten quick parenting tips that you can apply today to salvage your parent teenager relationship. More than that, you can positively transform your relationship.
1. Keep Calm At All Times. If you allow yourself to be overcome with anger and frustration it will ooze out of you and will inadvertently give permission to your teenager to reciprocate.
2. Don't Sermonize, Moralize Or Lecture. If you do, your teenager will see it coming the moment you open your mouth. Speak as little as possible. More is less.
3. Be Persistent. The bad behavior that your teenager is exhibiting was probably years in the making. Don't expect it to disappear completely over night. Don't give up because of a few setbacks. As your teenager is letting loose with personal attacks, insults and other expressions of verbal and even physical abuse, simply say to them; "I am happy for you to honestly express your feelings but please do not speak or treat me in such a disrespectful way". Keep repeating these words as if you were like a 'broken record".
4. Avoid An Inquisition. Your teenager will most likely will not want to be put through the third degree. Therefore, no interrogative questions since they usually provoke defensiveness and anger. Rather ask open ended questions such as "what was the low light of your day?" or "what was the highlight of your day?".
5. Identify The Exact Behaviors That You Find Disrespectful. For example; cutting you off when you speak, slamming doors, walking out, eye rolling, sarcasm and more. For instance, you might say, "please avoid using swear words when you are speaking to me since it is disrespectful".
6. Do not Send Your Teenager To Their Room Or Out Of The House. If you do this, it will confirm for them that you don't care or you want to get rid of them. They will most likely use it as further ammunition against you. For example, they may say "you kicked me out".
7. Stay Physically Close To Your Teenager. If they turn to walk away, follow them. If they choose to go to their room, keep talking to them without harassing them. Stay calm.
8. Visualize Yourself As A Being Of Peace And Harmony. Do whatever it takes on a daily basis, to be a walking oasis of love and peace amidst a world filled with hate, distrust and conflict.
9. Be Clear And To The Point As Possible. Avoid being long winded when you speak. It is a huge put off for a teenager or anyone for that matter. Be brief and let them do most of the talking.
10. Be Prepared To Do What It Takes To Restore Your Parent Teenager Relationship.
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