During my teenage years I can clearly remember seeking the approval of my parents. In hindsight, my observation of my parents leads me to conclude that the majority of the communication in our parent teenager relationship was about my parents telling me what to do and telling me what I had done wrong. I cannot recall a single instance that spoke of my intrinsic worth as a person.
There was very little if any celebration for who I was as a person or recognition of what I was doing that could be considered good or noteworthy.Think for a moment how my personal development might have been enhanced had my parents put some attention on affirming my intrinsic value?
The fact is that parent's have a duty of care that goes way beyond providing food, shelter, protection, medical care and a formal education. The truth be told, every parent has a responsibility to uphold and communicate to their child that they have inherent value as a human being.
It is not surprising then that too many teenagers (who turn into adults) suffer from low self esteem. Oftentimes the same teenagers struggle to set and achieve noteworthy life goals. In other words, they fail to excell in life because of a lack of self belief. The basis of limiting self beliefs can be traced back to something amiss in their relationship with their parents.
It has been noted that the vast majority of people that fail to make any significant money online come to the conclusion: "this is way too hard"and simply throw in the towel. They fail to believe that by being persistent and doing what it takes that they can achieve financial success. Could this in any way be linked to those same people lacking someone who believed in them absolutely during their formative years?
Research has conclusively proven that the best chances for success in life is based on individuals who accentuate the positives in their life rather than focussing on trying to correct what is wrong, weak or defective. In fact the vocabulary of champions is filled with only positive and empowering thoughts, even when they expereince setbacks on their journey.
So what is the implication here as it relates to your parent teenager relationship? As the parent you have the role of a coach who has been summoned by the universe to raise your child to become a champion on their journey of life. The best and only way to achieve that, aside from all the strategies, skills and knowledge required, is to celebrate the divine nature of your child.
There was very little if any celebration for who I was as a person or recognition of what I was doing that could be considered good or noteworthy.Think for a moment how my personal development might have been enhanced had my parents put some attention on affirming my intrinsic value?
The fact is that parent's have a duty of care that goes way beyond providing food, shelter, protection, medical care and a formal education. The truth be told, every parent has a responsibility to uphold and communicate to their child that they have inherent value as a human being.
It is not surprising then that too many teenagers (who turn into adults) suffer from low self esteem. Oftentimes the same teenagers struggle to set and achieve noteworthy life goals. In other words, they fail to excell in life because of a lack of self belief. The basis of limiting self beliefs can be traced back to something amiss in their relationship with their parents.
It has been noted that the vast majority of people that fail to make any significant money online come to the conclusion: "this is way too hard"and simply throw in the towel. They fail to believe that by being persistent and doing what it takes that they can achieve financial success. Could this in any way be linked to those same people lacking someone who believed in them absolutely during their formative years?
Research has conclusively proven that the best chances for success in life is based on individuals who accentuate the positives in their life rather than focussing on trying to correct what is wrong, weak or defective. In fact the vocabulary of champions is filled with only positive and empowering thoughts, even when they expereince setbacks on their journey.
So what is the implication here as it relates to your parent teenager relationship? As the parent you have the role of a coach who has been summoned by the universe to raise your child to become a champion on their journey of life. The best and only way to achieve that, aside from all the strategies, skills and knowledge required, is to celebrate the divine nature of your child.
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