What comes to mind when you hear the phrase: "It is easy to have a great parent teenager relationship"? Knowing what you know about raising teenagers you may be apt to think that the person who penned the words is a little crazy or arrogant or perhaps a little cheeky? Notwithstanding, the art of asking the right questions is a useful skill in parenting. Framing questions in a positive context stimulates the brain to seek positive solutions.
When you are normally confronted with problems, such as in your parent teenager relationship, words like "frustration", "difficulty", "stressed", "strained", "confrontation", "argument" and other similar negative terminology probably come to mind. Use of these kinds of descriptive words highlight a problem. When fed into your computer like brain, what kind of response can you expect?
If you ask questions that focus on negatives can you realistically expect positive, creative and useful solutions to emerge? Supposing you were to do a Google search and typed in the keywords: "problems in parent teenager relationships", your computer will do a search based specifically on those keywords. If your keywords highlight what you don't want ie problems, what sites can you expect to be taken to? Sites that highlight problems.
Problem oriented content will provide you with just that, that is, problems. Questions that have a negative focus will most likely lead to increased frustration levels. The reason for this is because such questions tend to elicit the reliving of past negative experiences rather than providing solutions.
Instead if you feed "parent teenager relationship solutions" into your search engine or your computer like brain you are likely to get information that empowers you to go where you want to go in terms of your relationship.
If you felt light, empowered and relaxed when you asked the question: "Why is it so easy to have a great parent teenager relationship?" then please keep asking the question. The universe is then bound to send you the answers that when implemented will create a happy, wonderful and respectful parent teenager relationship.
When you are normally confronted with problems, such as in your parent teenager relationship, words like "frustration", "difficulty", "stressed", "strained", "confrontation", "argument" and other similar negative terminology probably come to mind. Use of these kinds of descriptive words highlight a problem. When fed into your computer like brain, what kind of response can you expect?
If you ask questions that focus on negatives can you realistically expect positive, creative and useful solutions to emerge? Supposing you were to do a Google search and typed in the keywords: "problems in parent teenager relationships", your computer will do a search based specifically on those keywords. If your keywords highlight what you don't want ie problems, what sites can you expect to be taken to? Sites that highlight problems.
Problem oriented content will provide you with just that, that is, problems. Questions that have a negative focus will most likely lead to increased frustration levels. The reason for this is because such questions tend to elicit the reliving of past negative experiences rather than providing solutions.
Instead if you feed "parent teenager relationship solutions" into your search engine or your computer like brain you are likely to get information that empowers you to go where you want to go in terms of your relationship.
If you felt light, empowered and relaxed when you asked the question: "Why is it so easy to have a great parent teenager relationship?" then please keep asking the question. The universe is then bound to send you the answers that when implemented will create a happy, wonderful and respectful parent teenager relationship.
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