Depression over your infertility can be devastating but overcoming infertility depression is not only possible, it is necessary for your success in becoming pregnant. It's only natural that you are upset and depressed because you have to deal with infertility. Everywhere you look there are happy couples with babies and every day you read stories about parents that don't want their children. And there you stand... wanting to have a child of your own so badly yet unable to because of infertility issues.
Overcoming infertility depression can be difficult and frustrating. Not too many people understand and even the ones that say they do have often never had to do through what you are dealing with in your life right now. Well-meaning friends and family will tell you not to worry and that you're worrying about having a child of your own is causing your infertility. People might tell you that you can always adopt. This might not help you to overcome infertility depression and it might even cause you to go further inside your shell and be more reluctant to share what you're going through with others. What can you do yourself to overcome infertility depression?
Even though you might not admit it to anyone other than yourself, you might feel that all of your infertility problems are your fault. You might look back at your life and feel that you did something wrong that is causing your infertility or that God thinks that you're not going to be a suitable parent so you are being denied the child that you want so much. You might tell yourself one of a hundred things inside your head that all point to you and that there is something wrong with you. You are the cause of your infertility.
While all of us think that there is something wrong with us, dwelling upon the sins of your past or feeling like there is something wrong with you is not helping matters. Nothing good can come from beating yourself up and making yourself feel like garbage. Knowing that what you are going through is only temporary and it probably has nothing to do with who you are as a person or anything that happened in your past is a good place to start. Instead, focus on the future and dream about what you want. Think about how it's going to feel to hold your child and love that baby with everything that you have. Think about the love that you are going to heap upon that baby once he or she arrives into your life and how much more precious your baby will be after all that you've gone through to bring a child into this world. Trying to have a positive outlook on this entire process can help eliviate some of the pain and longing from the depression that you're feeling due to your infertility.
Yes, there will still be times when you're not going to feel like pulling yourself out of that dark place. You will be tired of fighting the darkness and you'll want to give in to the depression. You will have days when you'll be tempted to call off from work and just crawl back into bed because you don't think that you can handle the news that one more of your friends is pregnant. Giving into this temptation to isolate and give up the fight to stay positive and optimistic can be a slippery slope and one that you need to be aware of. Sometimes you're just going to have to push through it for one more day, one more hour or even one more minute to keep moving forward.
Exercise can help you to overcome your infertility depression. Getting out of the house and going for a walk not only helps your body physically by releasing chemicals into your body that will elevate your mood but not allowing yourself to be controled by forces external to you will help you feel powerful. You will be doing something real to overcome your depression and you'll also be doing something to overcome your infertility at the same time. Go for a walk or jog or join a gym. If you simple can't handle seeing other people or you're worried that you're going to be upset if you see another pregnant woman, go out at night. Lessen the chances of you becoming upset until you are feeling better and stronger.
Doing something starting today to help eliviate your depression is a smart move. Putting it off until tomorrow might be tempting but there is a pretty good chance that you'll put it off tomorrow also if you do so. Start right now to make the changes in your life that will help you to battle this depression and put you on the road to overcoming infertility and ending that depression once and for all. After all, you can't be depressed about infertility while you're holding a newborn baby, right?
Overcoming infertility depression can be difficult and frustrating. Not too many people understand and even the ones that say they do have often never had to do through what you are dealing with in your life right now. Well-meaning friends and family will tell you not to worry and that you're worrying about having a child of your own is causing your infertility. People might tell you that you can always adopt. This might not help you to overcome infertility depression and it might even cause you to go further inside your shell and be more reluctant to share what you're going through with others. What can you do yourself to overcome infertility depression?
Even though you might not admit it to anyone other than yourself, you might feel that all of your infertility problems are your fault. You might look back at your life and feel that you did something wrong that is causing your infertility or that God thinks that you're not going to be a suitable parent so you are being denied the child that you want so much. You might tell yourself one of a hundred things inside your head that all point to you and that there is something wrong with you. You are the cause of your infertility.
While all of us think that there is something wrong with us, dwelling upon the sins of your past or feeling like there is something wrong with you is not helping matters. Nothing good can come from beating yourself up and making yourself feel like garbage. Knowing that what you are going through is only temporary and it probably has nothing to do with who you are as a person or anything that happened in your past is a good place to start. Instead, focus on the future and dream about what you want. Think about how it's going to feel to hold your child and love that baby with everything that you have. Think about the love that you are going to heap upon that baby once he or she arrives into your life and how much more precious your baby will be after all that you've gone through to bring a child into this world. Trying to have a positive outlook on this entire process can help eliviate some of the pain and longing from the depression that you're feeling due to your infertility.
Yes, there will still be times when you're not going to feel like pulling yourself out of that dark place. You will be tired of fighting the darkness and you'll want to give in to the depression. You will have days when you'll be tempted to call off from work and just crawl back into bed because you don't think that you can handle the news that one more of your friends is pregnant. Giving into this temptation to isolate and give up the fight to stay positive and optimistic can be a slippery slope and one that you need to be aware of. Sometimes you're just going to have to push through it for one more day, one more hour or even one more minute to keep moving forward.
Exercise can help you to overcome your infertility depression. Getting out of the house and going for a walk not only helps your body physically by releasing chemicals into your body that will elevate your mood but not allowing yourself to be controled by forces external to you will help you feel powerful. You will be doing something real to overcome your depression and you'll also be doing something to overcome your infertility at the same time. Go for a walk or jog or join a gym. If you simple can't handle seeing other people or you're worried that you're going to be upset if you see another pregnant woman, go out at night. Lessen the chances of you becoming upset until you are feeling better and stronger.
Doing something starting today to help eliviate your depression is a smart move. Putting it off until tomorrow might be tempting but there is a pretty good chance that you'll put it off tomorrow also if you do so. Start right now to make the changes in your life that will help you to battle this depression and put you on the road to overcoming infertility and ending that depression once and for all. After all, you can't be depressed about infertility while you're holding a newborn baby, right?
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