Sunday, August 5, 2012

Are You A Parent? You Must Read More!

By Roxane J. Talisen


When you just don't know what to do and you are having doubts about your parenting skills, you may feel like you're all alone in the world. You're not! We've all been through it and we've all come through the other side better people and that includes our kids. Here are some tips on how we've dealt with a variety of parenting problems and survived.

For young children, don't underestimate the power of naps. They need more sleep than an older kid. Children can usually stop napping around five or six years old. Young toddlers should be taking up to two naps a day, and children 1.5 and older should still be taking one nap per day.

Do not assume the worst when your child begins to tell you his side of a story. Your assumptions about the situation can cloud your reaction to what he is really saying, which may cause him to shut down without opening up. Respect is a two-way street, so try to be open-minded when your child confides in you.

When your child does something wrong, make sure that you always criticize the behavior and not the child. Don't tell them that they were bad for doing something. Instead, explain why what they did was wrong, and then explain what they should have done instead. Try to phrase your explanation in positive terms.

If you are becoming frustrated as a new parent, put your baby in a safe place and walk away. The crib or pack and play can serve well for this purpose. Take some time to breathe and calm down, so that you don't unintentionally harm your child. You will thank yourself for this when your baby remains safe.

A great parenting tip is to not spoil your child. If you give your child too much money or all the latest things, they'll start attracting the wrong friends. Kids will start to use your child. You want your child's friends to like him or her for their personality, not just for their money or cool stuff.

Setting boundaries is what it is all about when it comes to your children and technology. Moderation can be your guide when setting limits on how long your children can use the Internet or make calls on a cell phone. Make your boundaries age appropriate and you will find that you will have more time to actually talk to your children.

An important tip for parents is to become acquainted with your children's friends as well as their parents. By getting to know your children's playmates and also their moms and dads, it is possible to develop a sense of comfort and confidence in the types of influences to which your sons and daughters are regularly exposed.

When giving out treats to your children, make sure that these treats are similar. Children get jealous very easily. When they compare, they often feel like their sibling is getting the better treat. If you make the treats the same, or as similar as possible, this should prevent most arguments.

Be sure to start teaching children that they can count on you from an early age. when they are young they will naturally trust you, but as they grow into teenagers you want them to think of you as a respected ally, not a feared dictator. It is better to get them to understand things than to demand their obedience.

While this article still does not provide you with an instruction manual for raising your children, try some of the suggestions to help make parenting easier. Every child is different and every age presents different challenges, but these tips can help you through problem areas or challenges with a different perspective.




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